Tarot cards can be like your honest, truth-telling closest buddy. Why is that? What are your true thoughts on this person? The first card advises you to consider whether this is a serious infatuation or whether you are simply bored and seeking a diversion.
What do you actually want to know, then? How does your crush feel about you? Do they even recognize your existence? Do they say that you remind them of their mother (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it might be odd)? Are they equally fixated on you as you are on them? We need to know, therefore card number two gives us a little glimpse into what’s going on in their thoughts.
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How do tarot cards work for love readings?
Choose your spread and put it in writing so it’s not just rattling around in your head. Then shuffle your cards while contemplating your relationship. Place any cards that jump or fall out when you do this in your spread. If not, spread out the cards on the ground and choose the ones that appeal to you or that you feel like prodding up.
Put them in front of you in the spread’s order, and concentrate on one at a time. Make notes as you go so that you can review them after the process is complete.
To look up the card meanings as you go, use your guidebook. To connect the card’s meaning to the solution to your particular query, you will need to engage in some mental acrobatics, but that is what makes tarot readings magicalit requires a leap of faith on your part.
Past, present, and future
An uncomplicated and straightforward three- or five-card spread is an excellent location for a beginner to start getting practice with Tarot spreads. The number of cards drawn indicates the depth of insight to be given, regardless of the theme (the majority center around ideas of achieving clarity regarding job, love, or spiritual purpose).
The past, present, and future energy of your current circumstance are frequently evoked by a three-card spread. A five-card spread expands on this knowledge by highlighting potential roadblocks and offering extra suggestions to help you come to a resolution.
card relationship spread
My go-to relationship spread involves drawing three cards for an immediate, energizing analysis of a circumstance. This one can be used to better understand the energy surrounding your connection in any partnership circumstance, including love partnerships, friendships, working relationships, and situations involving coworkers. The first card shown reveals how you interact with this other individual. The second card depicts the other person’s energy in relation to you. The partnership’s combined energy is represented by the last card. The spread provides information as to what is going on if someone has been acting distantly or if something feels amiss so you can obtain understanding before approaching the other person with open and honest dialogue. (Because if we don’t communicate with one another and exchange our thoughts and ideas, nothing advances.)
How may a tarot card be used for someone else?
So how does one approach a relationship-related Tarot reading question?
Use “Me” and “I” wherever possible; try to avoid saying “he,” “she,” or the other person’s name. What can I do to improve my connection with _____ or what can I do to mend my shattered heart, for example? Things like, “How can I locate the appropriate person for me?”
It just makes sense that the reading will be centered on you since you are paying for it. Take advantage of the reading as much as you can. That is precisely why I am always mentioning what readings CAN and CANNOT do. I put up pages like “what to anticipate from a reading” because I want you to get the most out of your reading dollar. Coming soon is a page with tips on how to maximize your reading experience.
Although the other party is a part of the relationship, they are not a part of the reading (unless they choose to be on a spiritual level, but that is very rare, special thing).
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Can a couple conduct a joint tarot reading?
Couples reading together can be enjoyable and educational for both the individual and the partnership. In some circumstances, it can also be profoundly restorative because a tarot reading can offer a neutral setting for resolving conflicts and seeing the big picture.
However, there are times when it can also be a potential land mine and make the reader an unintentional pawn in a War of the Roses.
I’ve sat with aggressive couples who were hauled to the reading against their will, controlling parents, and worse.
Some of my clients have even manipulated their partners using the reading by distorting the meaning to suit their purposes.
Even if all of these scenarios are uncommon, they can nonetheless occur occasionally, which is why both the client and the reader should practice mindfulness if a couple choose to visit the office together.
A safe and sacred environment must be established, which calls for healthy limits and mutual respect on both sides.
If a partner (parent, kid, coworker, friend, etc.) wants to attend the reading, this is my best suggestion for both couples and readers:
For the customer:
Coming in with a partner has numerous advantages (someone to take notes for you, sharing an experience, support, etc.), but a joint reading also calls for an atmosphere of unity and reverence on the side of both the client and the reader. Establish that tone right away, and everyone will have a great experience.
Many people want to go on the limo ride with you, but what you really need is someone to go on the bus with you if the limo breaks down. Ophelia Winfrey
Do you invite a friend or a family member to the reading?
If yes, what about that do you like?
What more words of wisdom would you impart, if you were a reader, to both readers and clients?
Please share your knowledge and experiences in the following comment section:
Infuse the cards with your energy
Spend some time with your tarot deck to imbue it with your energy before you begin plucking cards. The creator of Soul Cards, Kristine Fredheim, advises giving them a good shuffle while imagining or stating your name and birthdate. You might also think about sleeping with your cards under your pillow if you want to get really close to them.
How should I maintain my Tarot deck?
While rearranging the cards in the tarot deck is a good approach to purify and clear their energy, there are some circumstances in which you might wish to perform a more specialized ritual. If you’re just getting started with tarot, cleaning your deck can be an excellent place to start.
You might want to clean your tarot deck for a variety of reasons, including:
- beginning with a fresh deck
- readings for other people
- You think you need to recharge.
- Your card readings seem a touch “odd” or “disconnected”
- Your deck hasn’t been used recently.
- Your deck has been handled by others
- You think you’ve been utilizing your deck a lot. A LOT, especially for books with strong emotional content
Why should you cleanse or clear your tarot deck?
Tarot deck cleansing helps keep the energy flowing between you and your deck. Consider it as a little spiritual hygiene to maintain a strong and clear connection. It’s not necessary, but if you have any of the aforementioned symptoms, try a few of the energetic cleansing techniques listed below and note which ones seem to work the best for you.
How often should you cleanse your tarot deck?
This is another way of stating USE YOUR INTUITION: there are no hard and fast laws. Don’t stress if you don’t believe it is necessary for your deck. Alternately, if you like to cleanse them once per week or once per month, that’s great. If it feels appropriate to you, you can even place your favorite crystal on the balcony each night.
If you frequently place crystals on your deck and store it on an altar while not in use, you might not feel the need to cleanse it frequently because this quick ritual will likely be sufficient to keep your deck feeling nice.
There are numerous ways to cleanse your cards, just as there are numerous reasons why you might desire to do so.
Different ways to cleanse your tarot deck
Use holy smoke. Light a dried rosemary, lavender, cedar, sage, or palo santo cleansing wand until it begins to smoke. Hold the smoke a safe distance below the deck while holding the burning herbs in one hand and the deck in the other so that the smoke drifts upward onto the cards. Turn the deck so that the smoke covers it from all angles. Next, safely put your deck to the ground and put out the fire.
On the deck, set a selenite stone (or a black tourmaline or a transparent quartz). It works well to leave it like way for an hour, but I prefer to leave it overnight.
Set them on display during a new moon. The New Moon is energy of a blank slate; you can purify the deck by setting it on a window sill on a new moon night. At this moment, you can also make a brand-new intention for your deck.
Place the cards in a salty dish. A strong and stabilizing cleaner is salt. My preferred choice for a thorough cleansing is this. Allow it to sit anywhere from one to eight hours in a dry area.
Unorderly shuffle. Spread the cards out on the ground, then shuffle them around like a child playing in dirt. This method’s freedom and randomization serve as an excellent reset.
the shuffle and sort. Set up the deck in rows of seven cards across, commencing with the Major Arcana numbers 0 to 22. (see photo above). Next, arrange the cards, Ace through King, one for each suit, as follows: Swords, Pentacles, Cups, and Wands. View the deck in this configuration, then mix everything up (like the chaotic!) and shuffle it thoroughly.
After a breakup
Draw one card for each of the following inquiries if you’ve recently broken up with someone and want to know more about the reason or determine whether you’ll get back together:
- How energetic is the partnership right now?
- What caused the divide in the first place?
- What do they really think of me right now?
- What do they intend for me right now?
- What kind of relationship will this be in the future?
- Which action is ideal for me to take right now?
When job searching
You can use this spread to explore what kind of career guidance the tarot can offer if you’re feeling uncertain about your career path or thinking about a new employment. Draw one card once more for each query.
- How active am I in my career right now?
- What challenge must I overcome?
- What is my calling in life?
- How can I follow this calling more closely?
- What should I do to prepare for the upcoming month?
When deciding between two options
This spread can highlight the benefits and drawbacks of each option, guiding you toward the best decision if you’re using tarot to pick between two possibilities (two job offers, two apartments, perhaps a love triangle???). Getting the deal Per card, ask one question.
- What is the fundamental cause of this fork in the road?
- What is the likely result of choosing option A?
- What is the most likely result for option B?
- What more should I take into account that was overlooked?
- What’s the best thing I can do right now?
When something is off with a friend
If you’re concerned about the state of a friendship or feel like something is wrong but are unable to pinpoint the cause, you might be interested in seeing what conclusions and solutions this spread offers. Ask one question per card, once more, I repeat.
- What makes this friendship so crucial?
- What led to this sudden change in tone, and why?
- What has changed, in my friend’s opinion?
- What can I do to make this matter more urgent?
- What is the future of this friendship?
- What should I do at this moment?
How are tarot cards charged?
Leave your deck in a sacred location where you can “knead (shuffle) it each hour, giving it your magical power with your hands, for one waking day, much as you would a loaf of rising bread.” The greatest time to use this charge is when you’re taking a day off at home or in a retreat.
What in tarot is a third party?
The Fool was the card I drew for my daily card this morning, so I chose to attempt something a little different for today’s post. Even if you missed the live broadcast, you can still see the replay because I did it on Facebook. I’m discussing third party tarot readings in this broadcast, or readings that are focused on someone other than the seeker. A third party reading would occur, for instance, if you asked someone else what they think of you or about their personality.
I won’t deny that this broadcast contained some rambling. There are some priceless nuggets hidden among the rambling, so don’t worry. Learn the dos and don’ts of third party readings by watching this broadcast’s replay. I also go into great detail in the video outlining a tarot spread you can use. Below is a picture of that spread.
Should I go after a love tarot reading?
It never hurts to seek a second opinion from the cards, no matter how safe and secure your partnership is. Tarot cards can bring to light any repressed deep emotions and conflicts, or they can reveal how your spouse feels about you.
For advice and insight into your relationship, I advise consulting the cards every few weeks. You’ll be able to better understand your own emotions and sentiments and strengthen your relationship with your partner as a result.