Love may be excruciatingly painful, especially when the person you desire has walked out the door. But if you weren’t so preoccupied with feeling sorry for yourself, you could focus on getting your ex back. But how do you do it?
Of course, there are some ground restrictions. Practice patience, don’t be needy, keep your dignity, take care of your own life and looks, and simply try to be the amazing person your ex fell in love with in the first place. Often, simply going on with your life happily is enough to convince your ex to reconsider letting you go.
However, the importance of time cannot be overstated. And, if you truly want to improve your chances of reuniting with a long-lost love, enlist the help of Astrology. Some dates and situations are simply better for approaching an ex in the hopes of a happy ending than others.
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Retrograde romance
When Mercury, the planet of communication, or Venus, the planet of love, are in retrograde, these are two of the ideal periods to rekindle a lost love. Persons become more contemplative and deliberate about relationships when these planets appear to spin backward, and people and ideas from the past are more likely to return. That means your ex is more likely to consider YOU as well.
Mercury and Venus both move retrograde three or four times a year, and Venus every 18 months. It’s not the best time to start a new relationship when Mercury is retrograde, but you’re more likely to see your exs looking back. They’ll be thinking if they made the right decision by breaking up with you, and depending on how you act (no complaining, stalking, begging, or crying), they could discover they did.
When Venus goes retrograde, which is currently in Leo from July 25 to September 6, 2015, it’s an even more potent time for old loves to return. This is the moment to keep your calm and wait for your ex to approach you don’t worry, if it’s meant to be, they’ll find you. When Venus Retrograde occurs, it is a powerful moment for forgotten love to resurface; simply focus on being your happy, confident self and see how your relationship evolves.
How can I reclaim my ex for good?
Steps to Take and Things to Say to Recover Your Ex
- Use the “No Contact” Rule (Yes, Even on Social Media)
- Develop into a person who you can be proud of.
- Make a few positive changes to your physical appearance.
- Make a few positive mental adjustments.
- Allow yourself some time to grieve.
What can I do to entice my ex-boyfriend back?
While we understand your desire to win back your ex, you must be patient. Don’t respond to him when he’s ignoring you. After the breakup, don’t pursue him. You become weaker as a result of your relentless chase, and you lose all power.
Cutting off all communication with your ex and giving him space to process his emotions is a better option. Here’s the difference: you’re not persuading him to reexamine the connection; instead, you’re letting him decide whether or not to return to it voluntarily.
This is how men think, and it’s how you get a man to chase after you. He will never return to you if you force your ideas on him. So, don’t contact him, give him time and space, and let him decide whether or not he needs you back in his life.
Which planet is to blame for the breakup?
Love and relationship breakups are caused by planets transiting through the horoscope. Malefic planets cause breakups, and Rahu and Sun are other planets that cause breakups. Mangal dosh can also cause a breakup.
Planets in the horoscope that cause breakup:
- The conjunction of Saturn and Venus will result in the breakup of a relationship. Venus is important for love success, but if Venus is weak in your horoscope, it can lead to a split.
- If Rahu and Ketu have an effect on the 5th house lord in a kundli, the relationship will not end pleasantly.
- The 7th house is associated with marriage, however if Mars, Saturn, Rahu, or Ketu are weak in this house, marriage will be difficult.
- Moon is the ruler of feelings, emotions, and thoughts in astrology. When malefic planets Rahu, Ketu, and the moon align in the horoscope, it can lead to a breakup.
- Your love relationship will come to an end if the Moon is weak in the 6th, 8th, or 12th house in your kundli.
After a breakup, what is the three-month rule?
The three-month rule after a breakup simply states that all previously associated parties must wait three months before dating again. The purpose of this communal decree is to offer those concerned a break, some forewarning, and perhaps some leeway for forgiveness.
Why is it so effective to ignore your ex?
Your ex doesn’t want anything to do with you since you appear to be exceedingly insecure. However, you subsequently adopt a no-contact rule and begin to ignore them. Your ex will be surprised by the large difference and will wonder what occurred.
They’ll begin to inquire as to what’s going on. How did you become so secure and stable all of a sudden? Are you done with them?
This will irritate them even more if they were considering establishing a friends-with-benefits arrangement with you or keeping you as a backup because they never anticipated you to completely disregard them.
The more stable we are, whether we recognize it or not, the more we begin to re-attract our ex. But it’s not the only thing that happens while you’re ignoring your ex and acting solid and secure.
You Also Tap Into Their Grass Is Greener Syndrome
Whether you like it or not, the fact is that your ex’s breakup is an admission that they believe they can do better than you.
But here’s the thing: they need to date new people in order to recognize how fortunate they were with you.
This isn’t something that happens immediately away. Many individuals believe that the grass is greener syndrome is an instant thing that makes their ex want to come back to them, but this is not the case.
Your ex breaks up with you and tells you a falsehood about why they did it when they really simply want to see what else they can do. As a result, they go on dates and discover someone who they believe is better than you.
They form a new lovey-dovey relationship in which he kisses the new girl, deletes your photos from his social media, and replaces them with photos of her. For you, all of this might be quite gloomy and overwhelming.
But keep in mind that this is only their honeymoon time. The over-the-top honeymoon phase will soon fade away, and the comparisons will begin when they both retreat to their true selves in relationships.
In contrast to the highlights he had with her during the honeymoon period, your ex will start contrasting his everyday life with his new girl and with you. When he looks back on your relationship, he should think to himself, “I had it pretty nice with her.”
That’s when he begins to romanticize your relationship, and you begin to receive numerous messages from ex-boyfriends. He’ll probably try to be friends with you at first, but he’ll eventually turn to you for the emotional support that he should get from his spouse.
So, sometimes just ignoring your ex and letting them figure things out on their own is enough to trigger the grass is greener mentality, which leads to regret.
Conclusion:
Ignoring your ex with a no contact rule after your breakup is the finest thing you can do, and here’s why it works so well:
- It gives you more time to concentrate on yourself and live a better life.
- It reveals a secure and steady aspect of you.
- It allows your ex to fall victim to the grass is greener syndrome on his own.
When an ex returns, how long does it take?
In the majority of situations, couples reunite between 1-6 months following their breakup. Only couples that stayed together in a long-term relationship after getting back together are included in this data. Here’s a graph with further information.
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Is it feasible for your ex to fall in love with you again?
Experts say it’s conceivable to fall in love with someone you used to date again, and the reasoning is understandable. Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells Elite Daily, “Once you love someone, unless your respect for them is broken, you may always love them again.”
What can I do to make my ex miss me psychologically?
So keep reading to find out how to make him miss you.
- The Mind Games That Will Make Your Ex Miss You
- The first trick is to give him some breathing room.
- Trick #2: Get him to reflect on the positive aspects of your relationship.
- Trick #3: Pretend to be busy.
- Trick #4: Be unpredictably unpredictable.
- Trick #5: Make him believe he’s permanently lost you.
How can you tell whether your ex will never return?
1. Your ex told you to get over it. The only exception is if they continue to tell you this as a sort of reverse psychology in an attempt to reclaim your trust. Unfortunately, this happens more frequently than you might expect. This filthy method is taught by some selfish “get your ex back gurus.”
2. Your ex has blocked you on all social media platforms and is avoiding you. When someone blocks and avoids you, it’s likely that they dislike you and don’t want to interact with you. And, while your ex may be avoiding you on purpose, more often than not, they simply don’t like you.
3. Your ex deleted all of your social media accounts. In keeping with the indicator above, if your ex has unfollowed you on social media, erased photos of you, and entirely rebuilt their online profiles so that no trace of their previous relationships is visible, it’s safe to assume they don’t want you back. At least not right now.
4. If you happen to run across your ex, you’ll notice that they have a frosty demeanor. When you’re close, they don’t pay attention to you, don’t face you, smile, or even establish eye contact. It’s as if you don’t exist in their eyes.
5. When you invite your ex out, they keep finding excuses. If your ex keeps saying things like “maybe next week,” “I’m busy right now,” or “I have some errands I need to run,” there’s a strong probability they don’t want to be around you right now. Always pay attention to what your ex does, not what they say or mean.
6. Your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is married or engaged to be married. Is there anything else I can say? Even if your ex is eager to cheat, avoid becoming involved in these scenarios. Keep your distance.
7. Your ex criticizes you in front of shared friends and relatives. While you could argue that hatred (as well as hostility, rage, and mocking) is a positive indicator because it isn’t the polar opposite of love (which is apathy), I disagree. Hate is hate is hate is hate is hate is hate is hate is hate is hate is You don’t want to be with folks who you despise. I don’t want to be around individuals I despise. Nobody likes to see someone they despise.
8. Your ex is unconcerned about you seeing someone else. If your ex doesn’t display any envy, aggravation, or concern when they learn or see that you’re dating someone else, they’re probably over you.
9. Your mutual friends advise you to stop the relationship. Mutual friends often have a good understanding of how you feel about your ex. Because their minds aren’t affected by emotions, they’ve most likely addressed your predicament. As a result, accept their advice if they tell you to go on.
10. Your belongings are returned by your ex. This practice is akin to destroying bridges. The fewer belongings your ex owns at your home, the less likely he or she will contact you about them.
11. You decide to travel large distances. If your ex moved far away from you, or vice versa (depending on the individual and their time and means), re-attraction is unlikely to succeed. To reignite your relationship with your ex, you must meet them in person and continue to meet them. This can’t possibly happen when you’re thousands of miles apart.
12. You want to be “just friends” with your ex. It’s possible that your ex will use friendship as a backdoor into another relationship, but this is uncommon, especially if you’re the dumpee. They usually propose the notion because they want to gently let you down and avoid further hurting you. (It’s important to note that if you want someone’s friendship back, you should never accept it.)
13. Your ex has started dating someone else. It could be a rebound if this happened soon after your split. If your ex discovered someone weeks or even months after you split up, it’s possible that they’ve moved on from you and are looking for someone new. In that instance, what would be my recommendation? Find someone fresh for yourself.
The plainly obvious is number fourteen. For example, your ex tells you word for word that they no longer love you, that they don’t want to communicate with you, that they don’t want to see you or go out with you, or that they don’t want to get back together.
15. You were in a bad relationship. If you and your ex split up because of physical or emotional abuse, manipulation, lying, infidelity, criminal conduct, or anything else poisonous, your chances of reconciliation are little to none (even more than they already are). That, though, is a positive thing. Nobody should go back to a terrible relationship.
16. You have a strong gut feeling about something. I realize I’m repeating what every other blog has said, but I had to include it in this list because many people underestimate its value. So you’re probably right if you sense your ex doesn’t want you back. Pay attention to your instincts.